For many of us, we go through life placing our parents on a pedestal, and end up convincing ourselves that we're "selfish" for voicing out our needs, and boundaries.
Here's the thing, sweetie.....you're not "selfish", you just have emotionally unavailable parents.
Do your parents not listen to you?
Do your parents not ask you about your life?
Do your parents never spend alone time with you?
These are 3 signs that they're emotionally unavailable.
The issue isn't you. You can't go through life chasing them, or hoping that they're one day going to be emotionally available. For them to become that, they'd need to have a level of awareness, and actively work on it.
For emotionally unavailable parents, there's a huge sense of placing their needs above yours. You need to take them off the pedestal and acknowledge to yourself that they're emotionally unavailable, but you deserve an emotional connection, so start working on the relationship you have with yourself.
I understand, you might say they provided for you financially, but we're not talking about the material plane right now. We're looking at your psychological needs. Emotionally unavailable parents do not meet their child's psychological needs, and can't provide the comfort and validation needed for proper mental health growth.
This is where you start to develop insecurities, fears and even depression.
Rather than chasing for a relationship that may never happen, start to work on healing your inner child. After all, the words you have always yearned to hear from your parents are the same words that you can say to yourself today.
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